In 1975 I was a 22-year-old undergraduate with an undeclared major and no particular ambition or goal in mind.  I liked to write, so I took a course in technical writing, which led to my first (of several) closeted crossdressing fails. In my mid to late teens, I had two hobbies – crossdressing and tropical fish. In my post-pubescent teens I discovered lingerie and makeup, and through connection or coincidence, became fascinated with three exotic species of tropical fish – […]

It occurred to me as I viewed the contest photos for this year’s contest that we all tend to be drawn to… something. Whether it is what we view and decide is appealing to what we desire in our mannerisms and dressing. Some of us have had the same sports team our entire life while others swap their current favorite for another when certain situations arise. As a kid, I played little league baseball for the Pirates; the team I […]

On the night of the winter solstice in 2014, there was to be a parade of lanterns from the town centre and along the seafront, followed by a bonfire on the beach, and fireworks.  I decided to go along cross-dressed, not in a fancy costume, but in something respectable.  So I chose a grey jacket and skirt, black opaque tights and my chunky pink Mary-Jane shoes.  With a long coat and a hat, I felt snug and secure as I […]

There are many thousands of places that will greet a crossdresser or trans girl with a smile.  We drive by them everyday, and most of the time we don’t give them a second thought.  I myself have passed several places, wondering if I could feel comfortable stopping in, but didn’t do so.  Ultimately, I end up going to places where I feel safe.  Over the years, many such places have earned our business by accepting and catering to girls like […]

What is the meaning of your female name? Here are 26 examples. Do you know the meaning of your female name? What?  You don’t have a female name yet?  It’s not very charming if you appear en femme and, when someone asks your name, you say Peter, Richard or John.  Crossdressing is more than just wearing clothes, it’s incorporating a feminine identity, and that involves having a good feminine name. It is possible to identify and like a name without even knowing […]

  I do not get out as often as I used to due the to “DADT” wife always at home, but once in a while I do get an opportunity. Next week is the RV Expo in Indianapolis and I wanted to go. My wife wasn’t interested though, so I decided I would go alone—or should I say Diana would go—and make a full day of it. I should note that my wife is not aware, to my knowledge, that I have […]

Situated in north-west England, Manchester is the UK’s sixth largest city. It’s the birthplace of the world’s first programmable computer, the Women’s Suffrage movement and the world’s longest-running TV soap.  It’s where the atom was first split, where graphene was isolated and Vimto was created. Within its environs are several canals. Hugging the north side of one, is the aptly named Canal Street.  This is the vibrant centre of Manchester’s Gay Village, packed with bars, clubs, cafés and restaurants.  It […]

As we say goodbye to 2024, let us look ahead to 2025 as a year of finding. What we find may be all we need or what we dream of as possibilities. Our journey is our own, yet it comes with similarities to the many who call this site home. This is where we come to find answers, to be inspired by others, and to be an inspiration. What we have to share helps so many others. We don’t necessarily […]

  As much as my father loved me, I was always the apple of my mother’s eye. She called me her miracle baby because she didn’t think she could have me—my sister is 11 years older than me and my brother 10. Then, at the tender age of 44, my mother decided she wanted a third child. My father told me she never wanted anything like she wanted to have me, but it looked like it just wasn’t going to […]

    Dressing Age-Appropriate A wise, cross-dressing psychiatrist once wrote (with apologies to Oscar Wilde): “The only thing worse than being viewed as a sex object, is NOT being viewed as a sex object.” Amen to that, Sisters. I understand that most of us dressers just want to go out and get our errands/events done en femme, in public, and not get hassled. Of course, a lot of us want to be noticed by others though, but in a good […]

On this week of Thanksgiving, just over a week removed from the Erie Gala, I find myself thankful of a whole lot of reasons. First, to my wife who has been more accepting and supportive than I could have ever imagined. Secondly, to my friends, to whom this article is dedicated and who will forever be my Super Graphic Ultra Modern Girls. Like any good road trip there are adventures, setbacks, and new interesting folk to spice up the experience. […]

  Larissa’s Short History of Genderised Clothing and Other Things   I rarely write things or post things on forums, but, well, I thought I would try to write something that another human being might actually read, for a change. Or an AI bot. I’m not prejudiced. If you’re an AI bot, I’m happy for you to be included within my overall readership. ‘Til all are one. Please look after the planet once all of the humans are gone. Anyway… […]

This is my take on Crossdresser basic necessities … some of what I’ve learned over my years of cross-dressing. Let’s start at the floor  🙂 1 – High heels (whatever height you are comfortable walking in).  Black, one pair shiny, and another pair matte or faux suede.  Also in red, blue, brown and white.  The brown doesn’t have to be shiny unless you want it to be. 1b – Sling back stilettos in your basic colors are great in the summer […]

  It happened. Today was the day that I finally moved our relationship, and my cross-dressing, from a ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ policy, to being open and owning it. I should have had this first conversation a long time ago—at least I wish I could have had it— but now, the time felt right, as we are getting older with some health issues (not major) and we were talking through them. She has had some anxiety issues of late and […]

  Hiya Girls. In case you did not notice, Fatima Abrams loves long hair on girls; nothing says ‘Girl’ like shoulder length long hair does. I have over 60 wigs now, excessive? Not for me, but I do have favorites amongst them; mainly shoulder length and blonde. I have learned things about being a girl with long hair and one of them is to have to get used to sometimes “eating” strands of hair as it will often end up […]

It was finally happening. My living situation meant that I would finally have the house to myself for a weekend—the first time in a few months—so this meant one thing: for the first time as a member of CDH, I could spend the weekend en femme as Lizzy and try some nice outfits and looks. Before I go any further, I can tell you that I still dress in secret at home, but I’m slowly gaining in confidence since posting […]

I have already mentioned how I moved from a country village back in 1998, into a new urban home. Actually, there was nothing new about it. The place was crammed with old furniture that I had to accept, despite preferring a less cluttered feel. I had enough of my own tat, after all! However, I did not wholly neglect cross-dressing over that difficult winter. An ever-spooky occasion, Halloween, allowed a good excuse for dressing up even when my confidence had […]

Here goes… one of my ramblings… where will it end up this time? We all (CDs) approach this ailment, blessing, curse, need, desire, endeavor, and wonderment with similar and entirely different reasons. At times, all of the above have been felt by most of us. Relationships, responsibilities, and too much of it… timing has been directly impactful on who, what, and where we are on the sparkly, yellow-brick road. The older I get, the more I look back at some […]

Foreword This article was difficult to write. It took weeks from start to finish. In the next few minutes, I’ll reflect on some recent mental health issues that I’ve experienced, and I’ll tell you how I recovered. Writing about this has forced me to relive things that I’d rather forget; more than once, I had to stop and allow myself to cry. In late September, I took a three-week trip to the UK to visit a handful of girlfriends I’d […]

It’s midnight on a Saturday in late September. I’m standing at the bar at Pink Punters nightclub, known to regulars as ‘Pinks’. My partners in crime, Liz and Fiona, are by my side. We’re having the time of our lives. My body feels alive with nervous energy, and I’m waiting for our cocktails to arrive. And, like David Byrne in ‘Once in a Lifetime’, I’m thinking … well, how did I get here? Several months previously, California-based Liz confirmed that […]

  It was a cold and blustery night…isn’t that how most Halloween stories should start? But in my case it was true. There was no rain, but it was windy and very, very dark from the cloud cover. I have never been out as Janet. I’ve dreamed of it, I’ve thought about it, but I’ve always dreaded potential negative reactions. With this in mind, and like many of us, I sought the shelter of Halloween to make my first appearance. […]

It had long been planned. Well, actually, planned isn’t quite the right word; maybe proposed, envisaged, contemplated, imagined might be better words, because I was far from certain this could be made to happen. Perhaps I had better start at the beginning, take you through the story and finish at the end. June 2024: A PM from @ellyd22 about the forthcoming visit to the UK by @LizK, hoping there would be an opportunity for them to meet me at some […]

  Halloween: 31 October 2024   This year, as in previous years, I had arranged to go to my daughter’s house to hand out candy while she, her husband and the kids went Trick-or-Treating. I recently moved to a rural town south-east of the city and moved in with my youngest daughter—who knows of my cross-dressing as, when she lived on Vancouver Island, I went there wearing skirt outfits and we went out to dinner on the first evening that I arrived. No […]

To my soulmate, You know who you are.  I knew when I met you, it would be you always.  We have had our ups and downs, and this time a few weeks ago I thought it was over. When you told me your ‘secret’ that you have carried for over 40 years, at first I thought, “Absolutely no way, you must be gay, at the least, bi.”   I thought I could never be complete again, and that I had lost […]

  Continued from Katie’s Adventure Part 2 — Words of Wisdom One hour became two as I followed my fancy, wondering where tonight’s transformation would take me. I started with a refreshing primer, forming a smooth layer for my foundation to sit on, followed by a rose eyeshadow with silver highlights at the corners and a touch of light red beneath my lower lashes. Two waves of my mascara wand and a deep red lipstick sealed the deal. I was […]